Saturday, November 7, 2015
A day in the village
At about 5:30am, my eyes pop open. Usually this is due to the sounds of the village up and about around us. Light shines through the holes in the woven bamboo walls, illuminating the room like a disco ball. It isn't long before James wakes up, talking to himself. I can just make out his silhouette through the gossamer of my mosquito net, his blue mosquito net, and the mesh of the pack and play. He's sitting up, playing with his octopus.
Jacob and I untuck the mosquito net on our respective sides from between the 4" foam mattress and the linoleum sheet we had laid out to keep the bugs from crawling up between the rustic planks of our hardwood floor and into our mattress. I change out of my pj shorts and into a skirt before tossing the shorts under the protection of my mosquito net so a spider doesn't take up residence in them during the day.
Jacob is changing James' diaper. This temporary setting isn't ideal for washing cloth diapers, so we switched to disposables, using an empty pocket diaper as a cover to protect it from the grueling wear and tear James inflicts on it.
I make James a bottle. He's weaned but still taking formula and has made the switch to cold formula, which is lovely because its a hassle to get a fire or the stove going each time he's hungry.
The Berkey filter The Rising gave us provides "indoor plumbing" (as long as we keep refilling it with enough time for it to filter). I lay James on his back on the linoleum we have laid out in our living room (? They call it a veranda but with three windows and a door, it seems like a room to me) and give him his bottle.
Jacob takes a days worth of diapers and a bucket out to the outhouse to dump before returning to fiddle with the kerosene stove and get coffee started.
I tidy upstairs. After night falls, there's not enough light to bother with prep dishes or personal dishes that lasted past dusk. I pass dirty dishes through the window whose left half opens into the hauskuk, the room designated for cooking and washing dishes. There really isn't enough room to do prep as well so I do that upstairs and pass things ready for the heat down through the window.
We enjoy our coffee upstairs with James running around playing. The wasfamili is happier when he's not playing outside and its nice to have a good excuse to have some time for ourselves.
At some point, we're brought breakfast from our wasfamili's fire. The reciprocity culture here says we should bring something back but we don't make breakfast so we'll worry about that at lunch.
When James gets fussy, we go outside to let him play in the dirt. It's usually 7:30-8ish. Then its time to decide what to do with the day. Usually its too late to join people who are planning on trekking a long distance, which I'm ok with.
Sometimes we go to where the men are making thatching and Jacob helps.
Once we went to a garden close by and helped with planting yams. Today there's supposed to be a reconciliation feast we want to see. Sometimes its just a day to catch up on dishes or laundry or on writing.
Around 9, James starts to get sleepy. I'll put him in a bilum and give him a bottle to soothe him into sleep. The women normally walk the babies around until they sleep but I'm not strong enough to walk around with this chunky kid.
If we're at the house, we'll hang him in our living room, right in the center of the cross breeze. Jacob will pick up all his toys and I'll sweep the room with a bush broom that looks like a witchs broom without the stick.
If we're out, we'll find a tree or post to hang him on and shade him with an umbrella if need be.
His morning nap normally doesn't last an hour.
Before you know it, it's time to start lunch. I go upstairs to prep and let James run around with his toys.
Jacob goes down to make sure at least the dishes we need for this meal are clean and he passes me kitchen utensils as I need them.
We normally cook an abundance, enough for ourselves, our wasfamili, people we want to develop relationships with, and anyone who's around when we come out to share.
Cooking so much over a single burner means we're often in a race to finish before James afternoon nap, anywhere between 12:30-2. If James' wassister is at the house, she'll often come and take him, entertaining him while we cook. If we don't finish cooking by his nap time, we won't be able to rest while he sleeps.
After James' afternoon nap, normally between an hour or two, our son is lost to us as all the village children are back at their homes and just love to hold a white baby.
We try to start thinking about dinner at 4. If we're not finished by 6, well find ourselves cooking in the dark. Our lanterns are less than impressive and we don't have a big enough solar charger to use our phones on something as frivolous as light.
5:30 is an excellent time to go visiting and if dinner is done we can bring food to our friends, thus building relationships.
6:30-7 James starts getting tired and reappears out of the night. We give him a bottle before changing his diaper and putting him to bed.
Now if we were good, we would go outside and talk around the fire from 7-10. But normally we're exhausted, the heat of the day sapping all our energy, with the heat radiating down from the tin roof making it impossible to sleep that portion of the day away. And normally, as early as 7, the only people around the fire are our wasfamili who aren't the most stimulating conversationalists.
So we sit inside, enjoying some time just us. Catching up on writing if need be. When we get too sore sitting on wooden stools or the wooden floor, we move into the bedroom.
After getting tucked back into our mosquito net, we put a handful of skittles between us and enjoy a snack while chatting before we turn in for the night.
Thursday, November 5, 2015
Christmas Wish List
Christmas Wish List
I guess it's starting to near that time. The questions been asked: What would you like in a Christmas Care Package?
Which is kinda a confusing question, because I'm thinking, "Care package items? Or Christmas items?" I think there's a nuance there...
So I made a list that includes both!
Snyders Pretzels Original
French's Yellow Mustard
Starbucks Latte Via (Jacob likes mochas, I like white mochas, cinnamon dolce, and peppermint mocha, specifically peppermint white mocha but i don't think they make the via form of that.)
Hot Cocoa mix (Jacob likes dark chocolates. I like milk and white chocolate. We both like mint, sea salt, orange, raspberry )
Silica gel packets (You can buy these but even the ones that come in bags or shoeboxes are nice to toss in our spice jars to keep the moisture out.)
Taco seasoning (we normally buy it in 23oz containers because we use so much of it)
Italian seasoning
Grill shakers Garlic Seasoning (we can normally only find this at Sprouts).
Sleepytime Vanilla Tea
Bavarian Blackberry Tea (We think the brand is Lipton..?)
Goldfish for James
Peppermints (rounds, stirring sticks, canes, we're not picky)
Orange extract
Peppermint extract
Candy (Reese cups, skittle, starburst)
Beef jerky (peppered or teriyaki) (If you claim this on the mailing slip or leave it where it can be seen in an inspection, it will be stolen. Everybody loves beef jerky)
Tortilla press
LED battery operated mounted light (bonus points for a remote)
Latest seasons of Once Upon a Time, Forever, Bones, Arrow, Flash, Gotham, the 100 (I don't know how overlap could be avoided except by sending iTunes cards)
Kindle gift cards are always nice. Jacob wants to start getting James some Dr. Suess books
And as always, coffee mugs are loved. (the wish list can be found on my Pinterest. I would post a link but internet in the bush is finnicky... My username is ElizabethVahey! ...i think)
You can send packages to
Pioneer Bible Translators
C/o Jacob and Elizabeth Smith
Box 997
Madang 511
Papua New Guinea
It takes about a month for packages to arrive. Possibly longer as people start going on holiday.
These packages will receive a fair deal of rough treatment so go overboard on the packing tape so everything makes it. Once the integrity of the box is compromised, it's all downhill from there.
Thank you all so much for taking care of us. Through financial gifts, prayer support, and even your likes and comments on Facebook that remind us that we're not alone, we really appreciate you.
Tuesday, October 27, 2015
A Liklik Haus Story
It's
said that missionaries have a relentless thing about bathroom stories. That and
weird foods. And it's probably because bathroom stories are the most traumatic
stories of all.
But this
is a bathroom story.
And it
has to do with things that would lead someone to need to use the facilities.
As
hilarious as this story is, if you don't want to read about that, by all means!
Skip this article!
Just
please don't be offended if this article mentions some things that aren't the
most ladylike to be discussing in a public setting. I'm a missionary now and
missionaries have a slew of bathroom stories.
This was
our second overnight stay with our local wasfamili*. We had gone to bed about
an hour before and I woke needing to use the liklik haus (the outhouse). But
tired, and not particularly eager to get out of bed, I decided to ignore this
feeling as long as I could.
Well,
not much time had passed when James woke up screaming and wouldn't settle back
down. It's always hard to get him to nurse in such a new setting so I figured I
had better try again. But first the restroom. So I had Jacob go to grab the
screaming baby as I went out to the liklik haus. But the front door was locked.
Now as a
safety precaution, locks here need a key on both sides. Too often screenwire is
a main building material of a door or the window/wall right next to it, making
it too easy for someone to cut through the screen and turn the lock from the
inside.
But the
door was locked. And apparently our wasfamili had gone visiting.
The baby
is screaming. Jacob is exasperated, both by the baby and his inability to solve
this problem. And my bladder is about to explode.
So I do
the only think I can think to do. I take the small peanut butter jar we had
reused to bring them milk powder for our evening tea, pour the rest of the
powder into a milk powder jar she already had. And left Jacob and James in the
living room while I returned to the bedroom.
Guys,
the jar was nearly too small.
The
second I had capped that lid and thrown the whole jar into the wetbag we
brought for dirty diapers, our wasfamili walked up the stairs and unlocked the
door.
Jacob
gave James to me to nurse and went out to use the liklik haus.
We threw
the whole jar in the liklik haus later. I deemed it unclean and would not want
to reuse it again.
When we
lay in bed, with the baby finally asleep and all bladders empty, Jacob let out
a sigh.
"What's
wrong?"
"This
is rough."
"Why?"
"Because
the baby's crying! And you had to urinate in a jar!"
I
laughed. "But it's over now! James is asleep. The deed is done. There's no
reason to continue to be upset about what's done. It's probably never going to
happen again."
I think
we have a choice in this life. We can harp on things done and past and let them
ruin our moods and our next moments or we can accept that not every moment in
this life isn't perfect and move on. Focus on the good things instead and that
will come out in your attitude and life. **
"... whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable -
if anything is excellent or praiseworthy - think about such things." Phil
4:8 NIV
*a
wasfamili, literally "watch family", is the non-biological family who
looks out for us. In the village, all interactions are done with a strong
emphasis on "how are you related to me?" Consequently, throwing
people who are related to no one is very perplexing for the village. To
overcome this, we'll be "adopted" into a family. During our time at
POC, we had a wasfamili who we "practiced interacting with". In our
POC village living, we'll have another wasfamili who will take care of us for
that month. When we allocate to the village we will be working long-term, we
will likewise have a wasfamili there.
**This
is not to shame Jacob as his true source of anxiety was that I was upset (or he
thought I was). He's such a good husband to be bothered that I'm bothered and
try to empathize with me if he can't fix it.
Sunday, October 25, 2015
Leaving for the Village
On Wednesday, we'll
be leaving for the village living portion of the Pacific Orientation Course.
This is the practical.
Over the past two
months, we've been having lessons in Tok Pisin, the trade language here. We've
been interacting with the nationals more and more. We've been learning and
practicing cooking, both over an open fire and with local ingredients. And now
it's time to prove that we weren't just day dreaming all day long.
So we bought food
for a month. (Or what we thought was food for a month… How much rice do you eat
a month? Do you know? Or do you, like us, just go to the store and buy more
whenever you run out? Toilet paper? Sugar? Add a complete change in diet
because none of your normal fallbacks are going to fly without a refrigerator
and you might understand our confusion.) We bought basic household needs: a bed, a bucket for hauling water, wash
basins for dishes and laundry, mosquito nets, tarps for collecting rain water,
etc.
We've spent the past
week dividing and packing everything we own into what stays at POC and what
goes to the village. (My sewing machine, our laptops, most of our clothes, etc
can stay behind for such a short trip without electricity anyway.) (We do have
a solar powered cell phone charger.)
We're so excited to
head out.
There were some
concerns. But we proceeded on the child like faith that we pretty much live our
lives on.
With the same
confidence that we had when we left the States underfunded, we are eager to
leave for the village where, just a week ago, the house we're to stay in was a
questionable state, an outhouse had not been prepared, and no idea what to plan
for food for a month.
But Thursday we were
told that if our waspapa (the man who will act as our father in the village)
takes the time to buckle down and get the house up to snuff, he's going to be a
great waspapa. And if he doesn't, there's a fallback village that has a solid
reputation.
On Friday, we were
told that the house is looking good. There were a ton of people actively
working on it when they pulled up to see how it was coming!
And we brought 20
kilos of rice so I would be really impressed if we did manage to go
hungry!
So both of my
worries that I decided would accomplish nothing by me worrying about and that
God would sort out one way or another seem to have been sorted out!
So we have a few
odds and ends that still need to find their way into boxes. At this point,
we've fallen into the Oops Box phase. (Ordinarily, I would link back to my post
about How to Pack Like a Rock Star, where I talk about the Oops Bag, but I pay
per mb for internet here, so if you're really interested, I posted it
approximately June 2014.) But we have two days (with the nursery open!) to
finish up before we're off!
I have no idea what
the data service will be like at our allocation. Even here on this mountain
with 3 bars and just under 3G internet, posting pictures is a feat.
But I'll be back in town on December 1st! Completely done with POC! And hopefully I will have a good flow of blog articles to regale you of our time spent there and here at POC.
But I'll be back in town on December 1st! Completely done with POC! And hopefully I will have a good flow of blog articles to regale you of our time spent there and here at POC.
Life at POC at 5am
It's 5am and I'm
wide awake. If I were in my own place, I would just get up and start going
about the tasks of the day. Today, we're going to town for a massive shopping
trip and buying everything we think we'll need for the month of village living,
trying not to err on the side of not enough and going hungry (or being stressed
by eating PNG cuisine all the time) and trying not to err on the side of excess
and perpetuate the mentality that white people have endless access to tons and
tons of unnecessary cargo.
I need to prepare a
diaper bag for James (between diarrhea and diaper rash, that kid has been going
through a lot of diapers!). I need to double check my shopping list and empty
out my bag so I can put in my wallet, my cell phone, and have room for some purchases.
I also wouldn't be opposed to a cup of coffee.
But alas, I'm not in
my own place. I'm in a room where James sleeps three feet from our bed and all
our stuff is "neatly" stacked inside. Luckily, a POC veteran advised
us to bring shoe organizers to have places to put some things and that's helped
a bit. But when the schedule is as jam packed as it is, we only really use our
room to sleep and collect/drop off our belongings. As in, we grab our clothes
off the line, drop the basket (which is also the hamper) on the floor and run
to our next class. So, the next time we have dirty clothes, they go on the
floor until we finally get around to folding.
The walls (too
smooth to be plywood, but I'm nearly positive it's not dry wall, maybe just
sheets of woods?) are so thin, I can see light from our neighbors room coming
through nail holes. Needless to say, the function of the walls is more for
visual privacy than keeping sound or (*ahem*) smells in their proper place.
I could sit in the
courtyard. The doors to all 13 units opens into it. There's a concrete cistern
that pokes it's head out of the earth enough to find a seat on it, though it's
not very comfortable. And at 5am, I wouldn't have to worry about the sun burning
me, though the mosquitos would probably eat me alive.
If it were the
weekend, I would good to my hauskuk (the structure we made as a
"house" for our cooking) and hope there was enough kindling cut that
I could start a fire without splitting firewood, always an unwelcome sound at 5
am. But not only is it not the weekend, hauskuk weekend's are over. The entire
structure was torn down yesterday and the next time we cook for ourselves it
will be in the village.
Instead, I'm waiting
for my family to awaken. (Oops! They just did. Maybe I'll be able to write
another post before we leave for the village. Though I hope I painted a nice
picture of life here in my 5 am plight. Though, it's 6 now!)
Monday, September 7, 2015
Pacific Orientation Course
After a harrowing journey up the mountain with steep cliffs
inches from the edge of the road and turns that make your stomach drop, we
arrived at the Pacific Orientation Course. We live in a dorm setting. Our room
has a queen size bed and a pack and play draped with mosquito nets and a twin
size mattress perched on wood not as wide as the mattress. James has a nice
scrap on his head as he found the edge of the mattress has no underlying
support. Luckily Jacob grabbed him before he hit the cement floor.
We unpacked our luggage immediately. When you live in a
place for only a few months, it’s nice to rush through unpacking so we can feel
settled for as long as possible. A small open wardrobe was provided in addition
to a desk and four rat boxes. Two of them will be brought out to the village
with us during village living when protecting from rats is more relevant than
it is here. Adding a hanging closet organizer and a hanging shoe organizer gave
us all the space we need so that everything has a home.
The course hasn’t started yet, though we have had a nursery
orientation and a meeting with the nurse. On Wednesday, we’ll start the course
in force. In the meantime, we’ve been working at our assigned readings so we
don’t have to worry about them on our fully scheduled days.
The nursery has been open allowing us to allow James some
time to grow accustom to it while we can still give him a break. When the
course starts, he’ll be there from 8-12 and 2-4. There are four national women
who take care of the children under the leadership of a woman who works for
Wycliffe Bible Translators. When we first left him, we called out good-bye (because
we don’t want James to be afraid that he’ll look up and we’ll be gone without
warning). He looked at us, gave us a dead pan look, and then returned to his
newfound toys. How dare we disturb him from the important things!
There’s a lunchroom where we eat all of our meals. We sit at
long tables with benches. High chairs sit at the end of each table. There are 5
babies currently. I don’t know if more will be coming before the course begins.
Breakfast, lunch, dinner, and two tea breaks are served. They offer tea and
instant coffee, but luckily there’s always water on for our French press!
Eventually, we’ll have kitchen duties but for now the staff serves us as we get
our bearings.
The campus is beautiful. We’re at the top of the mountain
with steep drops all around us, revealing the beautiful foliage of the jungle
around us. The ocean can be seen in the distance. I’m not sure how far it is
but the clarity in the air makes me think it’s only appearing to be so close.
The weather is fairly cool, being that the mountain has a fantastic breeze.
There have been times, even in the heat of the day, that I’ve felt a little
chilly. Though that was inside in front of a cliff side breeze. The nights get
frigid. I woke up in the middle of last night to lay a blanket over James and
grab several more airline blankets for us. (They’re super thin but heavy!
Perfect for traveling, so we collect them from our flights.)
The feel of the camp is that of summer camp: rustic
beautiful environment with tons of people living in close quarters. We’ll be
here for two months, do village living for a month, come back to debrief for a
couple days and we’ll be done at the beginning of December.
We’re excited to start learning. And we’re excited to be
done. The fact of the matter is, while we’re still in PNG (yay!!!), this is
still training and a step we need to complete to get to our ministry and our
end goal of transformed lives through God’s Word in every language.
Pray for rain. When we flew in, this beautiful land we
remembered was brown and covered in fires and smoke. People need water to live
and to grow food. When people are hungry and thirsty and dying, spending effort
on Bible Translation is put on the back burner. Pray that God meets their
physical needs so we can return our focus to the spiritual.
Sunday, September 6, 2015
Our Plane Story
Three flights got us to PNG. Really, I don’t know if it’s
possible to arrive in PNG faster than we did. If those flights were any closer
together, we wouldn’t have made the connection.
16 hours – The number always sounds daunting, but when it
gets down to execution, it goes by surprisingly fast. This isn’t a car ride!
You get to distract yourself! Watch movies, eat food (they keep the carts
coming to help things seem like they’re going faster), sleep. And when you look
back and think, “I’ve been on this plane for 8 hours” it comes as a surprise.
Flying with James was super easy. Flying with a baby wasn’t
fun. Let me clarify the difference. The activity of flying with a baby is, in
its essence, miserable. Not a bit of that was James’ fault. He was great. Got
fussy maybe four times on the 16 hour flight. Exhaustion was the worst, because
really we just needed to let him cry it out for 5 mins, but we were on a plane…
so we bounced and shush a fussy baby for 20. But the luggage. The snacks and
diapers and sippy cups and toys. And only four hands. Ugh. No.
4 hours – Apparently someone prayed that we wouldn’t have to
deal with 7 items and a baby on the gangplank after I made my last Facebook post. That prayer was answered.
But not at all in the way I wanted. They forced me to checked bags at the gate.
Including the car seat! Which couldn’t fly because, though it had a sticker
that said it was safe to fly, it didn’t have a number, which Qantas was fine with and this was a Qantas flight
too, though on an Air Nuigini – No. Sorry. No. I’m not going to mentally rehash
this. It was not the highlight of my trip, having to check bags I wasn’t
prepared to check.
1 hour – The previous flight was delayed (I hate everything
about the Sydney airport. Never again.) And I had less than an hour to get to
my connection. Which includes going through the visa check, getting my luggage
from international (waiting until every single thing came through to discover
the pack and play didn’t make it and filing a claim), going through customs, transferring
them to domestic, going through two security
check points for all 6 pieces of carry-on luggage (we checked the carseat for
the hour flight, totally not worth it), having to get baggage checked at the
gate again. This time they made us
check the sewing machine, laptops, and camera bag (last time I checked our
personal items), but I watched them get put on the plane and watched them get
taken off and brought to baggage claim. We were directed to the wrong plane and
finally got on the right one and they closed the door behind us.
Landing – We were greeted with leis of frangipanis and a group of women from the PBT offices
there, 2 of whom I already know and love. We found out that our pack and go was
found in Port Moresby and it should be sent onto Madang on Monday. (We have a
crib at POC and a little peapod bed for that night) We got to our flat for the
night and took advantage of some free internet before passing out at 7pm and
sleeping til 4am.
Things I miss from America - Free wi-fi
I just paid $18.50 for 800mb of data. MEGABYTES
#thirdworldproblems
I just paid $18.50 for 800mb of data. MEGABYTES
#thirdworldproblems
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